iLl-FaTeD

Hello.......to all 3 of you. I just got this feeling of writing something about this particular syndrome. I'll tell you what it is..... but first answer these questions:

1. Do you feel that you are the only one who has got a bad luck and all the others around you are quite happy?
2. Do you think that when you are about to get in trouble, you always feel that its gonna get worse and it actually does happen so ?
3. Do you often compare yourself with the most wretched person around you, thinking 'hey I am way better than him/her but still I am the one who gets in shit and not him/her' ?

If your answer is a yes for anyone of the above questions, then its a yes for the rest of them as well. Don't try to refuse cause I am pretty much sure that every person thinks so. For those who have all NOs for the questions and boasting a wide grin - "Get the hell outta here LIARS".

Now I shall tell you what this is about. Its actually called the "Ill-fated Paradox" (No, its not an actual term, I just invented it). For all my nerdy friends who know the meaning of paradox and all the curious friends who have googled it by now, I will explain why I call it a paradox. As for the ignorant, keep reading . A paradox is a statement/s which together may lead to a contradiction or a situation which is not logical. Now according to the above paradox, each and every person on Earth has the same three feelings that means that every person believes that the other person is happier which would conclude that either everyone is happy or everyone is equally screwed, which again defies the paradox, now do you get it?????......... Alright, alright I know it doesn't make any sense. I just named it like that because it sounded cool. But the situation still exists.

Everyone of us, when met with a challenge or trouble, starts believing that his life is so tough and that he is Ill-fated and then they start worrying and become grumpy accompanied by some very sweet diseases. I have had this feeling since childhood. I didn't get a candy:: God! I am ill-fated. The teacher checks my homework and then beats my ass:: God! I am ill-fated. My father agrees to buy me that toy after 4 hours of wailing and then I find that the store is closed:: God! I am ill-fated. Every friend of mine has a girlfriend and I don't:: God! I am ill-fated. I am 22 and still a vi.......... sorry..... just got over emotional. But the fact is that we all do have this mentality. I finally decided to write about this after a particular incident happened.

Our(my colleagues and me) marking scheme for sessionals include 15 marks for assignment work which one of our lecturers decided to calculate by assessing our notebooks also. Now when I finally receive my sessionals, I find that he hasn't given me any marks for my notebook work to which he stated that I was unable to produce the notebook when he had asked for it. It gets better, after I convince him that I had my notes complete and that I had kept it for review in his office, he assures that he will check his records again but told me that I should also keep my notebook ready for verification. The fact is that I believe it got lost.

Now I am not a nerd, geek, padhaku, padipist or any other honorifics you have for class toppers. And even without those 5 marks it won't be that bad for me, but the fact is that its not extra marks that I desire. My mind works like this: If I had earned it, I must get it. For god's sake, I don't even buy a notebook for other subjects, but for this one I made complete notes and even submitted them and then if I don't get marks, I get pissed.

So what do I want to convey?? I got lower marks and thought I am in trouble. Then, when asked to keep the notebook ready, I had a feeling that I am not going to find it and it happened. Then I looked at this jerk who had got better marks than me, I thought why me and not him? You see......."Ill-fated Paradox". What I am saying is that it happens with everyone and it really gives you a headache(I myself spent hours searching for my notebook). So how do you tackle it???? I have a solution:- try finding peace in other's misery. Yeah, it sounds sick but I am not telling you to tango in front of this other guy pointing out his miseries. Rather try to see that you are not the only one with a bad day, others too have problems even worse than you, and they are still coping. So try to believe that god is not trying to doom your life alone. Like I did, I got dejected about this incident but then suddenly I thought of my colleague who got only 16 marks in his engineering graphics final examination, just because he hadn't much time to mark the question numbers against the drawings. How dumb is that??? Its like getting fu**ed by a d**do with rusted iron nails on it. Man, he must have been pissed like hell. Then, I just got relaxed. Although I still wanted those 5 marks but I was not tensed anymore.

This is just my opinion, but I believe that this "paradox" does exist and there may be many other ways to overcome it, much better ways maybe. So I would like you all to comment and leave your opinion about it.

P.S : People who are going to list yoga or Baba Ramdev as a remedy, should not bother posting.

Thank You for reading.